During my 30+ years living in a few different cities throughout the world I have seen my share of fashion when it comes to the male population. In the United States we are permitted an abundance of freedoms which people in many other countries are not as fortunate to enjoy. One of those freedoms is the freedom of expression which allows a broad range of ways by which one may demonstrate their individuality.
Most of us form the foundation of our preference in attire coming up through childhood and adolescents, and our parents usually playing a big role in influencing these choices. Overall most parents want their children to represent themselves in a way which will allow them grow up to be a successful person with limitless opportunities, but at the same time they want their children to be free to develop their own way in which they represents themselves in regards to their appearance. These youthful years are a great time to be free to express themselves in whichever they feel best, but they must keep in mind what they want become in life and what they want to attract to their life.
We must encourage our youth to present themselves in a manner that will attract the right attention to them. The world knows and judges us by what they can see. If people see you dressing in a stereotypical suspicious way they are going to apply stereotypical treatment to you (I need not go into specifics on this statement). If people see you dressed in a distinguished and dignified way they are more apt to treat you as a distinguished and dignified individual.
I’m not trying to dictate how anyone dresses nor am I trying to criticize anyone for their preference in attire, but I have seen and experienced how people are treated differently based on the way that they present themselves. So let’s allow our youth to enjoy their freedom of expression, but let’s also teach our youth to know how to present themselves as prospects instead of suspects so that they will gain the opportunities and respect that they truly deserve and that will allow them to some day fulfill their potential.
Network marketing rookies often make poor decisions when it comes to who they invest their time and money in during the beginning phases of building their business. It has been said that a sensitive and kindhearted person person cannot survive in this line of business for long. I believe that in many respects that is true, but it’s not all bad though. We will get to that in a later entry.
Kindhearted people are often attributed to have a blue or sometimes yellow personality type, (depending of the chart you are using). A person with this personality type encompasses qualities such as sensitivity, being a people person, and being a caring team builder. In most lines of business you cannot successfully build your business when you have too many qualities that fall under this category.
You know of you bestow these qualities, and this article is for you. You are going to have the desperation to partner with as many people as possible as quickly as possible when you first enter this line of business. It does sound great and in many way it is great to partner with numerous people in a short period of time, but what are you sacrificing in order to make this happen.
Sacrifice is necessary for success in network marketing but it has to be the right kind of sacrifice and done at the right time. Many network marketing rookies allow their desperation to make them spend days and weeks and sometimes months begging friends and family to partner with them in their business. When one of these friends or family members is in the brink of partnering, the rep will usually do one thing or another; either front the person hundreds of dollars to bring them in at a high leadership level, or they will allow them in at the lowest level. After the person is in the business the rep will drain him/herself spending all of their time trying to ensure that this newly recruited person sees some sort of success so they won’t quit the business.
Well the person had no vested interest in being a partner and still has no desire or financial drive to make them do what’s necessary to succeed. They didn’t invest much of any money into this business so if they don’t see some big money coming their way soon they are bound to quit and tell everyone else that it doesn’t work. You sacrificed hundreds dollars in your own money and/or countless days and hours into this person that has quit the business and is telling everyone else not to partner with you either.
Friends and family can be great assets to your business if you bring them aboard the proper way, but using desperation will not work in your favor. It was once said by a wise man by the name of Jarrod Wilkins, “Your friends and family won’t start supporting you until strangers start celebrating you.”
Stay tuned to upcoming entries for the proper ways to utilize your friends and family in your network marketing business. Also please feel free to comment with any approval and/or disapproval to this blog entry.
What is it that you think about the most? Have you ever stopped to think about that; to think about what you think about? Most people don’t think about things like that, and that’s exactly why they will never reach the level of success that they truly aim to reach.
You must consciously feed your brain with positive, enriching, and intellectually stimulating on a regular basis messages in order to really get the full experience of joy, pleasure and success out of life.
I ask you to examine what it is that you let into your mind during the course of the next 21 days. Conciously keep negative thoughts out while pumping positive thoughts in. Consciously tune negative media out while tuning in to a great book that will stimulate a success mentality. Consciously seek the good in every situation no matter how bad it may appear at face value.
This task will not be easy for most people because most people allow the negativity in our society to formulate their attitude and way of thinking, and then they become a direct reflection of the negativity that they have let into their mind. Don’t become what the world wants to conform you into, become greater! Be the other statistic; be the 3%.
21 days of repetition can transform this task into a way of life for you. It happened for me, and it can happen for you. Now get out there and make the world your playground.
There is an infinite number of different types of people in this world. We sometimes have to live with, work with, and/or go to school with people who are nowhere near similar to us. They have different outlook on life, they have a discouraging point of view about their abilities, they blame everyone else for their problems, they want life to be easier, they want less responsibility, they think less of you, they see no light at the end of the tunnel, and they bring down everyone around them….except YOU!
Never allow those around you to steal your dream. You know what you have within, you know life is a wonderful journey and not a misery, you know that your abilities can and will take you where you want to go, you take responsibility of your problems, you enjoy the challenges of life, you enjoy shouldering more responsibility than is assigned to you, you believe in those around you, you see the light at the end of the tunnel and you uplift everyone in your vicinity when it is within your ability.
What will mean the most and last the longest after you are gone is the affect you have made on the lives of others. How will YOU remembered?
Much love everyone.
If you are unhappy, unsuccessful, stressed out etc…please reach out to me.
The vast majority of our school systems and educational facilities teach on the notion that knowledge is power. They supply our youth with what they feel is the best methodology of educating them to be prepared to go out and take on the world.
The teachers become the liking of a robotic machine monotonously lecturing the same historic information that has been lectured on for decades with the idea that they are preparing these students to go out and succeed in life. While most of them have all the best intentions in mind this simply isn’t enough.
The acquisition of knowledge is indeed highly recommended yet simply the acquisition of this knowledge alone does no good if you don’t know how to apply this knowledge to the real world. Young men and women alike around the country are completing high school today with no idea on how to independently survive, let alone thrive in the society that is unleashed on them upon graduation. The rapid advances in technology have developed the true reality to be nowhere near the what the typical high school education has prepared these young people to take on.
These high school graduates have an abundance of knowledge that has been drilled into their heads for the past four years, yet there was no class that taught them how to pull that knowledge from within and apply it to their respective career pursuits. There was no adviser or counselor there to actually guide these students in the proper direction which would give them the highest odds to thrive in life.
That being said, Knowledge is NOT Power, it is the potential of power. Upon graduation from any institute, regardless of the level of education you have acquired, it is a necessity to continue to self-educate. Never stop studying and polishing your craft. Never stop topping your best and NEVER let anyone else tell you what you can or can not do. Do all of this and you will attain the tools necessary to bring full power to your knowledge.
In today’s school system our youth are taught to go to school, make good grades, then graduate and get a good job. This is how you make something of yourself and achieve success in life. The vast majority of our graduating youth complete their studies with this mentality. For some of them, this plays out very well; within a month or so of graduation they land a decent job with a decent salary and room for growth. They stay with this employer for a few years until they either become complacent and eventually fired, or they outgrow the company and move on to another company which they see as a better choice.
In this article we aren’t going to talk about that group of people. I want to talk about those who follow that path of education yet when they finish they do not find employment. They apply and apply to job after job but never receive that callback for an interview. Occasionally they will get through to receive a phone interview yet they never hear back after that phone interview. These youth end up in a semblance of limbo where they are looking to take advantage of the first opportunity that comes along. These youth become caught up in what has been coined as ‘waithood‘.
If we look back through the generations at the greatest figures throughout history who have come to shape the world as we know it you will see one thing in common. The vast majority of them were entrepreneurs who didn’t wait for someone to give them a job. The big issue with this is the fact that our current school system does not teach entrepreneurship. This system does not prepare our youth to go out and own their own financial future. This system teaches our youth to be dependent upon a corporation to decide if these they are qualified to work for their company or not. Traditional work is simply not designed for all people, or better yet, the minds of some of our youth are to complex to be squeezed into the conformity of a traditional form of employment. We need more training to show young people how to be entrepreneurs and take control of their financial future.
The human mind is one of the most underused tools and it is at our immediate disposal. We must train our youth to be innovative and use their minds in ways that powerful thinkers of the past did. Modern day entrepreneurs serve as a catalyst for those around them to also become entrepreneurs and or at the least, to have job opportunities. If we indeed promote entrepreneurship we can empower young people to be creators of the very economic opportunities they’re so desperately seeking.
Whether you’re putting off that research paper until the last minute, or leaving the biggest job task for last, procrastination has gotten a
grasp of you. Any individual that has attained any level of success in their life will tell you that you had better jump off of that boat as soon as possible.
With the constant bombardment of distractions such as new television series, sporting events and social engagements it has become easier and easier to put off the important things for later. What you may not take into consideration is the fact that you will never really experience the entirety of your success until you break the habit of procrastination. Oftentimes we have all good intentions when we procrastinate; we “have it all planned out”, but more times than not it goes nowhere near what was planned, then we beat ourselves up in frustration as to why we didn’t get started earlier.
As hard as it may be, if you actually take the initiative to get up and take action immediately on your task at hand you will very soon thereafter realize how beneficial it was and you will thank yourself for being disciplined enough to do so.
As some associates of mine once taught me; plan your work and work your plan.
What you want to do is at the beginning of each week, (preferably Sunday evening), sit down with your calendar and plan out the next 7 days. Be honest with yourself by making the week’s tasks doable, but also make them challenging because you want to be continuously growing.
Another tip is to tackle the most demanding tasks first. When you successfully complete a demanding task early in the week or early in the day it sets you up for a week of success. You have knocked out the biggest beast and everything else should fall together without much difficulty.
Make to-do-lists. When you make a to-do-list it gives you a guide for your day. As you go through your day and complete your tasks you will see your list growing smaller which gives a sense of satisfaction which in turn excites you push harder to ensure that you demolish the entire list.
Stop talking and start acting. So many people like to sound as if they are busy or have a lot on their plate, but most of the time they are simply stating what they WANT to do as opposed to what we are actually doing. It’s feels good to boast about what you are doing, until someone calls you out on your bull. If you want to step into success you MUST take NIKE’s advice and “Just Do It!”
Disconnect your cable TV! Numerous individuals waste away hours and hours watching their favorite television shows every week when they could be working towards making their dreams become a reality. This can be very difficult when you have a significant other or you are married. Your partner will most likely want to spend leisure time with you by lounging around in front of your big screen TV, but it’s up to you to let them know where your priorities lie.
There are obviously numerous ways to fight procrastination that I will touch on in another article. Until then, go set some goals, and DEMOLISH them!
Check out this video by Eric Thomas on Procrastination:
We were all placed here on this Earth to fulfill a purpose. We were also given a unique gift to be put into utilization for the fulfillment of that purpose. You may ask, “How do I even figure out what my gift is!?” Well that’s simple; “whatever you do the absolute best, with the least amount of effort is your gift.” (Les Brown)
You can try and complicate it all you want but that is as simple as it gets. You may discover your gift but have no idea what to do with it. If you are deligent enough you can figure out a way to benefit the lives of others with your gift no matter what it may be.
I have discovered over the past few years also that there is a way to monetize nearly any gift you may possess. Days and weeks and months of studying successful entrepreneurs and business people can expose you to countless ideas as to how you can make the best out of whatever you have to offer…BUT first, you must discover your gift.
If you have doubts or concerns in regards to your gift, your purpose, or monetization feel free to complete the contact form below.
Nearly all of us desire to be a success in life. Not all of us seek to achieve that success by the same means, but nonetheless we want to be a success. The hard truth is that most people have no clue how to be a success. Most people have not been exposed to sufficient leadership and therefore do not know what is necessary for the attainment of a successful life. With the proper leadership you will learn the dos and don’ts of business.
Here’s a list of 7 things to give up before you can achieve success.
1. People Pleasing
In the game of life there is a time and place for everything. Some people get pure satisfaction out of making everyone that they come across happy. Depending on what part of the country or world you are raised will determine this. Many people in the southern United States are raised to never do anything to offend others, never say anything rude about a person in their presence and to put on your best smile even when you don’t like the person. Well that works fine in day-to-day life with people who you have familial or close acquaintance with, but when it comes to reaching goals and getting to the next level in life you have to use a firm upper lip at times. There comes times when you have to give constructive criticism to people that they do not want to hear or dismiss people from your business or company due to their holding your success back. It’s not fun to offend or hurt other people’s feelings but if you plan to make progress in life you can’t always do that which makes people feel good.
2. Doubting Yourself
On the road to success we will face numerous difficulties, but honestly, if it was easy everyone would do it. So man of us look at other successful people and automatically assume that their success came overnight, they had natural talents, or everything just worked out the right way for them. Those assumptions are true almost…0% of the time. The only difference between them and you is the fact that they believe a lot stronger and bigger than you. When you doubt your ability to accomplish a thing you are programming your brain to validate that doubt and eventually manifest it if you don’t change your though processing. A great book for self doubters is The Magic of Believing, by Claude Bristol. It was frequently stated by world-renowned speaker, Zig Ziglar that “whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you are probably right.” I wholeheartedly agree with this statement. You must believe in yourself when no one else does. If you let off any degree of self-doubt in the presence of potential customers or business partners they will catch whiff of it and not want anything to do with you.
3. Negative Thinking
This one goes along with number 2. Our society is inundated with negativity. Turn on the television and all you hear is news about who what plane went down or which company has filed bankruptcy. Pick up a newspaper and on the front cover is an update on the how bad the economy is and how many people are unemployed. It is nearly impossible to live in this world and not be polluted with negative messages on a regular basis unless you lock yourself up away from the public and refrain from all forms informational media. That’s obviously senseless to even consider so what you NEED to do it learn to be a positive thinker. Regardless of your circumstances you MUST be able to put a positive spin on it if you desire to be successful in life. In business it is very easy to become discouraged upon facing unfavorable interaction with others in regards to your business’s products or opportunity. Another successful speaker, Jim Rohn would say “The same winds blow on us all, but where you arrive is the set of your sail.” We all have adverse things happen to us, but the ones of us who succeed are the ones of us who refrain from complaining and just take action to better the situation. One thing that keeps me positive is: If it’s within your capacity to fix the issue or rectify the situation then do it, if you can’t do anything about it then get over it. There is no use to getting all negative about with your complaints and worries.
4. Fear of Failure
Let me be straight forward with this one. If you are afraid to fail then you have already lost at life. No one who reaches any level of success got there by taking the easy route. You must be willing to fail and you must also cherish temporary small failures so that you can really enjoy the pleasure of succeeding.It must be understood that failing doesn’t make you a failure.
You only become a failure when you don’t go at it again after you fall short. Some of the most memorable figures through
history failed countless more times than they succeeded, the thing is though, people remember the success, not the failures. You must persist through the difficulties and never give up on your pursuit.
There is constructive criticism and there is destructive criticism. We all need constructive criticism from others in order to better ourselves, but we don’t need to criticize ourselves for every little thing that doesn’t go as planned or for being turned away time after time. Criticizing yourself falls in the same ballpark as negative thinking. There will already be enough people looking in from outside of your life that are locked and loaded ready to criticize you. They don’t need your help.
6. Saying Yes When You Want To Say No
Along with number 1, this one can be chalked up as Southerner’s Syndrome. If you aren’t from the South you may not understand, but it’s instilled in the South to never say things that may hurt the feelings of others. Well you can either flush that notion down the toilet or let any future success fly out the window. You may not be siding with a yes just to prevent from hurting someone’s feelings, instead you may be overly confident with your skills and abilities to multitask. In the direct sales and network marketing industry many rookies jump from opportunity to opportunity because they don’t know how to say no. I made the mistake of saying yes when I wanted to say no on a couple of occasions early in my career and ended up losing money or harming friendships. Eventually I learned how to say no without being offensive and learned to teach others to do the same (info in future blog).
This one was saved for last for a reason. Procrastination is the reason for so many missed opportunities. So many people are saying, “I’ll do it tomorrow; Maybe next week; I’ll be ready next month.” One of the best quotes I have heard in regards to procrastination was stated by Eric Thomas: “You have to take advantage of an opportunity of a lifetime in the lifetime of the opportunity.” When you wait to take action you are leaving money on the table and leaving the door open for someone else to come long and take what is meant for you. If not now then when, if not you then who? In achieving success most anyone knows you must set goals. When you are a procrastinator it’s nearly impossible to meet your goals. Procrastinating helps you improve your skill of making excuses, aides in poor decision-making and ruins your reputation. Lastly, the MOST important resource that you have is time and procrastinating is the #1 killer of time.
Why put of until tomorrow what you can do today? Let’s go make it happen because Your Legacy Begins Now!
This blog was started in order to add to my arsenal necessary to help change the lives of all those that I encounter. There are so many people that go through life never realizing their full potential and they go to their graves with treasures left inside. I grew up with numerous individuals with vividly obvious potential for greatness. Some of these people encompassed extraordinary athletic skills while others were clearly entrepreneurs in the making. To their misfortune, their environment completely swallowed their individualism. They ended up not coming anywhere close to fulfilling their full potential.
Who and what we become in life is a direct effect of either our environments or our thoughts. What thought are you allowing into your mind, and how are you allowing them to develop who and what you are?
I don’t want to spoil future entries by going into too much detail, so let me end with this; “You lose in life until you can change the way you think…until you can see your purpose in life…until you believe in your ability to fulfill your purpose…and until you commit to use that purpose to bring about the betterment of your life and the lives of those around you.”